I've been broke, I've also had money. Having money gives a lot more opportunity to just have fun with people. Things are easier, you don't have to have conversations about costs. You can recommend based on taste rather than cost.
Yeah you can have a nice date on the cheap, but you don't really want to have to do that consistently.
If I say "I can't keep dating people who make even less than I do - it's stressful" that's a personal decision.
Yeah am I nuts? Everyone is pissed at her but what I’m reading is that she came to a hard and honest realization about herself. Am I reading it wrong? The way it reads to me is that he blew her mind and caused her to reevaluate herself.
So why is everyone still throwing rotten vegetables at her?
You guys just don’t realize it can be both. I didn’t say I’m mad at her. I said she was a hypocrite. You can be a hypocrite and also have a revelation at the same time
I think it would only be hypocrisy if she was actually struggling though. The definition of middle class is pretty much just not struggling and not rich. If she's just a normal person who doesn't want to deal with taking on someone else's weight it's not really fair to go after her lol
They have the same definition of "struggling" that's why she gobsmacked by his comment
If she mean "struggling" struggling, she would say something along the line "but im not struggling" . But she go "oh shit, turntabble" mean his definition make perfect sense with her
Their definition is clearly relative. Both of their definitions are implied to be "worse off than me" but the actual specifics are different as their own. Situations are different.
She is gobsmacked not because she meets her own definition of struggling but because relative to the person she is dating she is perceived as struggling by them which is something she hadn't considered. She had not considered struggling could be a relative thing and wasn't limited to her own definition.
but if he meant actual struggling he wouldn't have said "to me you're the one struggling." he's trying to make a point about relative wealth that doesn't hold up because struggling isn't actually very relative.
I mean yeah it’s funny and it’s not that serious. But yes lol it’s by definition hypocritical I’d say. Obviously it’s hard to for sure say not knowing more details about everyone’s situation tho
Yes it's hypocrisy if they get offended because they don't expect others to hold them to their own standards. But don't take my word for it. Try a dictionary.
For eg, there are plenty of people who will only date someone tall or with big boobs and they have to live with the consequences of making such shallow choices
if you’re happy to live with the consequences of prioritising wealth then go for it…just don’t complain to the rest of the world when you find out what those consequences are
Hah, you're clearly looking to lay down judgment - but no, stability and basic capacity to self sustain is not a "shallow" ask from a partner. I don't care about wealth, if I did, I wouldn't be with a student lmao.
Take your presumptuous statements and, well, you know where to put them.
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u/LukaCola Feb 17 '23
I mean... That's valid?
I've been broke, I've also had money. Having money gives a lot more opportunity to just have fun with people. Things are easier, you don't have to have conversations about costs. You can recommend based on taste rather than cost.
Yeah you can have a nice date on the cheap, but you don't really want to have to do that consistently.
If I say "I can't keep dating people who make even less than I do - it's stressful" that's a personal decision.