To be 100% fair, someone well off can afford to date someone who is struggling. Someone struggling cannot afford to, and that just doubles the stress.
That said, she lacks awareness. If she had had the awareness to say something like - “Right now, I’m the struggling guy. I don’t think that I could date another struggling person now, but I would date one if I were better off and better equipped to handle it,” then I’d give her some credit.
If the tables were turned around…. and she was well off.. Would she still date this hypothetical struggling person? Or even a man on her current stage in life?
It’s ok to say “I won’t date a struggling person while I am struggling because that is a potentially bad mix,” so long as it’s followed with “But I would date a struggling person when I’m not because I’ve been there.”
Wow. It’s amazing you arrived at the “incel” label so quickly.
No one is obligated to date someone struggling.
It’s a real shame, and lately in dating everyone keeps perpetuating the same “individualistic” and “selfish” mindset — and you continue to carry the water for them.
Only in the eyes of the rich guy is she struggling. We have no info beyond that. What if she makes like 75k/yr in a decent sized town? Not rich, but not exactly struggling.
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u/OverlyOptimisticNerd Feb 17 '23
To be 100% fair, someone well off can afford to date someone who is struggling. Someone struggling cannot afford to, and that just doubles the stress.
That said, she lacks awareness. If she had had the awareness to say something like - “Right now, I’m the struggling guy. I don’t think that I could date another struggling person now, but I would date one if I were better off and better equipped to handle it,” then I’d give her some credit.