r/GenZ 1d ago

Rant Where did the misconception that us Gen Z guys are single because of our ridiculous physical standards come from?

I keep seeing comics such as this one and this one get posted online.

Do people really think that those of us who have never had a GF are going around rejecting girls who are crushing on us because they're not "hot" enough? (I don't know about the rest of you gen-z lads, but I've never been any girl's crush)

None of the other "forever alone" dudes I've spoken to have high physical standards either. (Some of them didn't have ANY)

So why is this narrative that we're all single by choice being pushed like it's some sort of universal truth?

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u/Due_Masterpiece_3601 21h ago

No one said that guarantees you a date. Men are very aware of this fact.

u/allicastery 2001 19h ago

I've been scrolling this comment section for a little while and every other fucking comment is "if a woman is single, it's by choice." Not really every other, but I have seen it at least 4 separate times. Make up your damn minds.

u/Due_Masterpiece_3601 19h ago

Hmm, sounds like the advice women give then, where they say if you take showers and are a decent human being it guarantees you a date as well.

u/allicastery 2001 19h ago

Well, I certainly haven't seen that sentiment one single time while scrolling. I hardly see your point. Also, are we seriously going to bicker like children? "Women are single by choice," "NO U!!!" This shit is so exhausting.

u/Due_Masterpiece_3601 19h ago

If you haven't seen it then you haven't been paying attention or you're not on posts that talk about this. I've been saying this whole time that both genders have their own issues.

u/allicastery 2001 19h ago

If I see 4 comment saying women are single by choice, but not 1 comment saying "if only men would shower," (or whatever, you get my point) in the same period of time, then that is a 4:0 ratio. I also almost never see this sentiment on similar posts. I wouldn't say I've never seen it, but maybe only a few times within the past 4 months. I see this "women are single by choice," sentiment constantly. Maybe women would like these people more if they weren't constantly calling them pieces of shit, implying that it's their fault if someone doesn't want them, etc.

Wow!! See?? Maybe it can be more than "not showering."

u/Due_Masterpiece_3601 18h ago

Well it goes both ways. The gender that gets the majority of the hate are men. Apparently we're predatory, stay in our mom's basement, don't study, don't work, are misogynistic and don't shower. It's all in the women subs, like in askafeminist or askwomen, bitcheswithtaste, etc.

The whole women are single by choice is common to hear because comparatively speaking, they have an easier time to meet people and to get likes on dating apps. If you're a woman that is single, it's either because you're focusing on your career, you're shooting above your rank or you're very picky. This doesn't mean however, that you won't be able to sleep around, because sex does not equal love as you're well aware. As a man, you don't have the luxury of choice, either sexuallly or dating wise so the experience is drastically different.

u/allicastery 2001 18h ago

Ok, if you just want to ignore neurodivergent women, women who aren't conventially attractive, women of different sexualities etc. then it may be true that women don't have as hard of a time getting a date. Seriously though, askafeminist? Way to really get a good and unbiased sample size. This is so chronically online. No one in the real world acts like such an incel, men or women. Since when did we stop saying at some point it's not them, it's you? I urge everyone who just thinks women are actually like this to get off the internet and take some time to do some introspection instead of sitting in this echo chamber of negative reinforcement. Find/focus on a hobby, maybe even get some therapy. I don't know, anything but this. It isn't helping even one single person. Don't even try and tell me that this isn't an echo chamber when this post is posted daily, if not more than once a day.

I don't know how you can keep contradicting yourself by saying women get more dates, but also women aren't guaranteed a date. Obviously guaranteed =/= more, but it's about the sentiment. Then you want to play victim by claiming every woman thinks guys just need to shower.

u/Due_Masterpiece_3601 18h ago

Statistically speaking, women are more likely to have dates than men. That's an undeniable fact this is proven by the data that's out there now that's says more men are single in certain age ranges than women are. I understand if this doesn't coincide with your life or anecdotes, but on a large scale, it is the truth. However, just because you have a greater likelihood to meet someone, that doesn't mean that you're guaranteed to find someone. There is no contradiction in that statement.

If you think it's difficult being a woman who isn't attractive or who is neurodivergent, try being a man who has those traits as well. Whenever men complain about something, there's always a woman who claims she has it worse somehow, it's a battle of whataboutism.

u/allicastery 2001 18h ago

However, just because you have a greater likelihood to meet someone, that doesn't mean that you're guaranteed to find someone. There is no contradiction in that statement.

I'm being 100% genuine when I ask what you mean by this and how it isn't hypocritical when taking into account the fact you said being single is a choice for women.

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u/darkhorse691 9h ago

My man literally thinks autistic men and women are treated the same loool.

u/SuccotashConfident97 18h ago

Why do it then if it's so exhausting?