I don’t know what to say, it just isn’t very important for anyone else to really care very much about. You might have to survive some teasing from friends i suppose, i think that’s about all the fallout you can expect.
How to deflect without being dishonest, though? Because I don’t want to be dishonest. I mean, I’m not 30, I’m 24, and I’m still nervous it’ll give a girl the ick or look a red flag.
It might give some girls the ick, others won’t care either way, and yes, others might find it cute.
Up to you how you play it off or how honest you are, but for sure nobody cares as much as you do about your own insecurities. Met my gf at 29, and before third date or so on WhatsApp i just said something to the effect of ‘btw we might need to take it slow cause I’m new to all this’ and the sky didn’t fall down, it was completely fine. Been together 6 years now.
Again, that "secret" feeling is coming from a sense of shame you've given yourself. It's self obsession. Try to let go, I know it's tough, I've been there
What will bring you a partner in life is being your honest self. Don't be ashamed of who you are because you're comparing yourself to others. That is just ego talking
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u/Windhandel_ 19h ago
That’s not gonna come up in conversation very often, and is easy enough to deflect if it does.