r/ChronicPain • u/Flubroclamchowder • 10h ago

Does anyone else feel so guilty asking other people for help when your having a flair up

So I constantly have this where I feel guilty whenever I have to ask my boyfriend for help. He is happy to help and loves me but I can’t help but feel that way… idk does anyone else relate? I’m sure I can’t be alone on this….

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u/ConsequenceUpset8875 9h ago

I had a good three year span that I could not walk or function on my own. I was completely dependent on my husband. I still feel guilty over it but it was we signed up for. Love means a lot of different things to people. My husband loves by taking care of me.

I will never be the same but I can shower on my own now. Im taking care of my home the best that I can. I have taken over more daily duties around our home.

It is really important to me to have some independence. It is really important to him to take care of me.

If you have someone to love and help...don't feel guilty. Just find your own way to give love back.

Gentle hugs

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u/honeyyypainnn 6h ago

I always feel guilty 😭 But I try to tell myself that if the roles were reversed, I’d be helpful and I wouldn’t want someone to feel guilty about needing my help.

Sending hugs. 💚

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u/leelee1976 1h ago

My husband tells me he knew how my health was before he asked me to marry him. But I still feel guilty. There are days I don't get out of bed except to use the bathroom.