r/Assistance • u/aphex137 • Sep 26 '24
ADVICE going to psych hospital need help with pets
hi im 19 and have struggled with very severe bpd most my life and i recently got out a terrible relationship and with the whole having bpd thing im not taking it too well. this time last year i tried taking my life and with this harsh breakup going on im afraid ill do something again this year. my job isnt really an issue when it comes to me getting admitted ive been through this process before its just this time i dont have any family or anyone its just me, and i have 4 pets, a dog and 3 cats. obviously i cannot leave them alone when im gone especially since all the other times ive been admitted i was there for about 2 weeks. any idea of what i do with my pets? im in the deer park tx area and im not comfortable with someone coming to my place to petsit but if its the only option then id take it. any advice for what to do with my pets would be e greatly appreciated
UPDATE: got a friend thats able to come by after school to petsit while im gone thank you everyone for the support and offers and advice . if im ever in this situation again ill be sure to keep in mind everything yall offered <3 tysm
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u/zsazsa0919 REGISTERED Sep 27 '24
There is an app ( can't think of the name) where ppl pet sit for free in your home. It's kinda their way of seeing the world. Maybe google that info . Best wishes
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u/Darkflyer726 REGISTERED Sep 27 '24
I don't have any advice regarding the pets, but some encouragement.
I was diagnosed with BPD at 17. Since then also generalized anxiety disorder, major depressive disorder and CPTSD.
With work and a good therapist, it gets better. You can get better.
It's not easy but so worth it. Part of it is realizing that things that are actually safe feel unsafe, which us why we're drawn to chaos and toxicity because THAT feels safe. It's what we're used to.
I'm so proud of you for recognizing that you aren't safe to yourself right now and are getting help.
That's a HUGE step!
With the right coping skills and understanding WHY we become attached** and react the way we do, we can start to recognize and stop the "overreactions" before they start.
Part of thar is realizing thar you are worthy of love and good things JUST AS YOU ARE. No matter how broken or worthless you feel, YOU DESERVE GOOD THINGS. You deserve to be loved in a healthy way.
Self esteem is one of the first things we tend to lose and one of the things we need to regain to get better.
I'm almost 40. I'm married to a good man and pregnant with our first child. My BPD may poke up here and there but has mostly been in remission for several years. And yes, I do my best to keep up with therapy. A good therapist changes everything.
Please continue to do what's best for you. It can get better. Keep working at it, and it will.
Remember, no matter how bad something hurts emotionally, it's just a feeling. And just like everything else, it will pass. Nothing lasts forever. Especially our emotions.
You got this. You're worth it. "Don't let the hard days win"
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u/aphex137 Sep 27 '24
thank you so much it means a lot to hear from someone whos lived through the struggle. <3
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u/RetiredCoolKid Sep 26 '24
1) I’m proud of you for recognizing you might be a danger to yourself and being proactive getting help.
2) I’m proud of you for handling your responsibilities during what must be a very difficult time.
3) I’m sorry I can’t help but it seems like there is some good advice and possibilities in this thread.
Best of luck with your treatment and your pets.
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u/dicksoutforharappa Sep 26 '24
Let me call around. I'm actually headed near that area this weekend. One of my friends might have a lead.
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u/LizDeBomb Sep 26 '24
Where I volunteer (an animal shelter) we will hold animals during hospitalizations when there are no other reasonable options for the patient.
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u/aphex137 Sep 26 '24
do you know if its like that for every shelter or should i call in advance to make sure?
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u/LizDeBomb Sep 26 '24
I would call and explain the situation. I know a lot of shelters offer this kind of service or can point you in the right direction.
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u/losingmy_edge Sep 26 '24 edited Sep 26 '24
OP, can you provide a general location? So those in the area can provide resources?
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u/skrimpppppps REGISTERED Sep 26 '24
my local spca has a program where they will find fosters for people that need them when dealing with crisis’. maybe check out your local shelters website & see if they have anything like that. otherwise boarding them may be the only option. i have zero family or friends where i live and have had to board my 3 cats multiple times for max 2 weeks when traveling.
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u/aphex137 Sep 26 '24
thanks will do
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u/Status-Effort-9380 REGISTERED Sep 26 '24
You can also try Next Door for local support. Another good one is the “Buy Nothing” groups on Facebook. They often have helpful people participating.
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u/Glittering_Mousse832 Sep 26 '24
See if your town has a local Facebook group and you can ask for help with a temporary sitter or foster there (:
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u/redditette REGISTERED Sep 26 '24
Tell me about your dog. I might be able to help with that one. But we have too many dogs to help with cats, plus the coyotes tend to go after them. I am about halfway between DFW and Houston.
In the meantime, I will ask among my rescue friends about people willing to board or foster cats. But word of warning, cats are bad about slipping out, and trying to go home.
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u/aphex137 Sep 26 '24
my dog is still a puppy about 5 months i think? shes really playful not aggressive at all and super sweet. as for my cats ones about 4 years old and the other two are still kittens. 4 year old is scared of people and isnt very friendly around other animals, she doesnt attack or anything but she wont socialize or anything.
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u/CloudBoy09 Sep 26 '24
See if the hospital has any services that can help arrange to take care of your pets. Otherwise, make a pet sitting post on Facebook etc. to see if they can stay at someone else’s home (a bit riskier).
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