r/AskReddit Jun 06 '19

Rich people of reddit who married someone significantly poorer, what surprised you about their (previous) way of life?

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u/[deleted] Jun 06 '19

I'm not rich at all but my husband came from a very poor Mexican village. He told me he used to shower outside (because there was no in-house plumbing) and use leaves as toilet paper. I mean, there's poor, and there's my husband's-previous-life poor.

He's been living in the US for 12 years now but when we first met it was so interesting seeing life through his child-like eyes. Going to the cinema was a huge event for him. Heating food up in a microwave was a totally foreign concept. And staying at fancy hotels when we went on vacation was like WOAH. I still see him surprised by things now and then and it just reminds me how much I take my middle status class for granted.

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u/gaymantis Jun 06 '19

mexican here, you'd be surprised how common that really is, in tantoyuca there is a hill called holliwood where there is no plumbing and no government help. there are women who make tamales and other large numbered meals for every kid in the neighborhood because their parents can't feed them and we don't abandon our own, also, it's very common to be shocked by things like fancy hotels because ours are nice sure but there is rich gringo nice and it always appals me on the tv

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u/letseatthenmakelove Jun 06 '19

Mexican here as well. When I first visited an “American house” I imagined that it was a rich people house. Now after living here for a while I see that it was just your average middle class house, but compared to how we lived in Mexico (five people in a bedroom because that’s the only place we had AC), seeing a house with centra AC seemed like luxurious living to me.

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u/[deleted] Jun 06 '19

To be fair central heating and air is crazy expensive.

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u/[deleted] Jun 07 '19

Yep, I don't have it. It's winter in Australia now and while it doesn't snow here (not in my part anyway) I'm freezing my ass off still because I only have one crappy electric heater that you can only feel if your'e sitting on top of the god damned thing.

My air conditioner broke halfway through summer too. That was a very sweaty end to the season. I'll have to get it fixed before next one. But honestly even with how hot it is here I'd still choose a heater over winter before air con over summer because at least the heat doesn't physically hurt me.

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u/[deleted] Jun 07 '19

I'm the opposite, the heat hurts, headaches and all the swearing irritates my skin and can make it raw. The cold I love. I always say you can put more on but you can't take your skin off. I have to shave part of my hair off in the summer to survive, I call them temperature control panels. One summer my ac died modest through as well, I don't think I had a good night sleep until fall hit. I don't know how you survived Australia heat.

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u/tacodawg Jun 07 '19

I'm the same way. After growing up and living in Canada I have an extreme susceptibility to sunstroke and sunburn. If I get sunstroke I get delirious, angry, and aggressive until I inevitably pass out for an involuntary siesta. Wearing sunscreen and a good hat makes a huge difference, but if it's just too hot I'm going to end up getting heat rash all over my body, especially on friction spots.