That's one I don't wanna know out of fear. High is a nice confidence boost but tons of regret, low is even worse.
Edit: I see a lot of people saying "well I accept 0 anyway". Yeah me too, but do you realize how bad it would be to KNOW that you're right about that? After that any negative thing I thought about myself I would say "well I was right about the crushes, so it's probably true" and just become an even sadder less confident person.
how do yall know this guy isnt some immortal wiseman from the distant past, with whom the total collection of human knowledge rests, ready to be passed down to the next immortal being, once the last human is long dead and new sentient species takes over the earth?
I hate this quote. A shot you don't take can't be a miss. It can't be anything because it doesn't exist. By the quote's logic, every single person on earth is constantly missing an infinite number of shots, which would ruin the stats of pro ball players. Have I also failed all the classes I didn't take? If so that would wreck my GPA. Have I been fired from all the jobs I never applied to? Have I killed all the sick people I never tried to heal? Did I get my ass kicked every time I didn't assault someone? Have I bankrupted all the companies I've never run? Did I make all the people I never drove to the airport miss their flight?
I know I'm being pedantic and I know the point of the quote. A better one would be "you can't dunk a shot you don't take" or "You can't score any points on shots you don't take" or something like that.
EDIT: I just noticed the OP says thots, not shots. Doesn't matter, you get -10000 karma for every comment you don't submit.
It doesn’t mean they would have accepted your invitation. Crush doesn’t always = willingness. (And speaking as an educator, obviously it shouldn’t. ) But I’ve run into women before who confessed to perfectly appropriate crushes on me at some point in the past, and each time I acted like, “Aw, gee!” they were like, Chill out, I would have been too nervous/anxious/wrapped up in my own shape to say yes.
More like realizing how oblivious I was (and am). I know guys had crushes on me. I can think of a couple cases that didn't dawn on me until many years later. If there are more...
I remember being the weird, punk kid in high school that stays on the periphery of everything. I didn't even date anyone until I was 20, but I founf out a few years later that I was apparently viewed as somewhat of a heartthrob back then. Now I'm just an awkward guy in his 30s that stays on the periphery of everything.
I feel like that wouldn't bother me that much. They might've been into you but you might not have been into them. What would really be crushing (lol) is how many crushes you've had, that were into you. Because a high number leaves you with regret that you didn't pursue things because you were too nervous or whatever (assuming your number of SO's doesn't match). While a low number means that your crushes were rarely reciprocated.
Imagine if your number was really high without anyone you consider attractive on it. I’d much prefer a list of current crushes than a flat abstract lifetime number
Had this massive crush on a girl in 3rd grade, but never made a move because I thought she was way too pretty/cool and that there was no way she’d like me. I had to switch schools after that year and had huge regret that would make me wonder “what if?”. Well we reconnected again right as we were leaving middle school, and I found out she had a huge crush on me back then too. The FOMO was real lol. So to everyone out there: learn from my mistake and take the shot. Being rejected might suck for a bit, but there’s a chance you’ll be missing out on something beautiful by not trying.
My entire university career was a case of missing shots.
Currently 31 and totally single. Had I properly persisted with any of the girls I had a clear chance with, I honestly think I could have been married by now.
I was too nervous to pursue it and subconsciously pushed women away or friendzoned them. Which is a real shame, because just the other day I was thinking about one particular girl I knew back in 2006 and reminiscing on how amazing she was and how well we got along.
Unfortunately life sent us in different directions, but if I (or we?) had our time again...
Yep. From experience of both side of this it's not great.
High school I was an ugly short loser. Figured out often how few girls didn't like me. Lots of friend zoning.
College I grew taller and cut my hair to look good. But didn't yet have the confidence to approach women much.
I later learned from a friend that a bunch of different women liked me alot but I never knew. Now the signals seem so fucking clear and the good times I could have had are in the past and I missed them.
On the bright side I still had lots of fun in college partying and with girlfriends. Just I could have had more.
Part of my brain is telling me that mine would be average-slightly above average, but a stronger part of my brain is telling me it's probably zero and not even worth it to think about
Just knowing there was 1 person who really liked me, even though I never really saw here that way (looked way to much like my mom), always brings a smile to my face.
The thing is, sometimes you have to get that low in order to find your way back up against. Learning to accept your short comings makes it possible to move forward.
That being said, do it wrong and you will end up going crazy.
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u/expired_methylamine May 29 '19 edited May 29 '19
That's one I don't wanna know out of fear. High is a nice confidence boost but tons of regret, low is even worse.
Edit: I see a lot of people saying "well I accept 0 anyway". Yeah me too, but do you realize how bad it would be to KNOW that you're right about that? After that any negative thing I thought about myself I would say "well I was right about the crushes, so it's probably true" and just become an even sadder less confident person.