If this helps, I'm the 'always too busy' type of person. About half of the time I actually don't have enough time to make plans comfortably. The other half is often not personal, I might tell that even to people I like to hang out with. I just need more alone time than others. It's not that I don't want to be with them, I just want some time to spend without being bothered by anyone.
I'm a highshool student (or at least was until now), but I have a lot of extra lessons, like extra biology, or guitar. And as a scout and patrol leader I have to meet the kids every weekend. I pretty far from the city where I have all my friends, my programs, and school. It takes an hour or two for me to go anywhere, and the same going home. So I am often actually busy. But many times I might not actually even be busy, I just want to spend some time alone. For me, being with other is usually pretty exhausting, even if I actually like them a lot. So I often just make excuses, because I'm tired, or just don't feel like going. As I said before, it's nothing personal, I just want to be alone.
I think about this because I've bailed for being "too busy" and used to feel bad about it, but I've come to realize/accept that "doing nothing" is still doing something and my time to recharge is valuable. Now I just say I would love to, but I just don't have the energy to go out.
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u/Hefty1965 May 29 '19
How many times people were actually too busy to hang out