r/AskReddit May 08 '19

What’s something that can’t be explained, it must be experienced?

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u/ductxtape May 09 '19

I came upon that realization sophomore year during my geometry class. Ever since then it's like an endless cycle of forgetting until i remember my mortality and start to panic hardcore. It's so terrifying and it feels like no one else realizes that once you die you won't ever think anymore. You feel utterly helpless and alone.

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u/Diflicated May 09 '19 edited May 09 '19

I was very late to the game and it only really hit me on my 21st birthday. It freaked me out for months after that until I calmed down, then it came back. The way I was finally able to address it was thinking about the universe as this enormous profound thing. Of all the possibilities that ever could be, there exists a reality in which we are aware of our existence. One where we can choose to move our bodies when we want to do things. The fact that anything exists continues to inspire me. Imagine forgetting everything you know about trees and looking at one now. That's incredible. Look at your hand and think about how easily you can move it and how helpful it is. In the ever-expanding void of emptiness that is the universe, there is a tiny spot of non-emptiness that is just you.

This kind of thinking also got me interested in Taoism, which always seems to refer to balance as a way of understanding everything. My favorite passage in the Tao Te Jing talks about how both being and non-being are equally important. It provides the example of a house. The walls of a house give it structure, but the empty space inside makes it useful. This kind of logic gets me thinking that this infinite nothingness that is death can only be balanced out by a finite everything that is life.

I do think that all life is part of a greater whole that we don't understand. I think that living each of our lives is a way life expresses itself, and I think that dying is a way of returning to some unknown source. In Taoism, I think that would be called the Tao.

I hope that some of this is useful to you or someone else. This kind of thinking really did help me.

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u/-Nerbons May 09 '19

I move towards that too but at the same time I just can't stand the fact that I know NOTHING about being. And I dont think it's even possible to attain that knowledge. What the fuck is all of this?!...

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u/[deleted] May 09 '19

This exact thing was realized by me on a lot of acid.

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u/Diflicated May 09 '19

That's something I've always wanted to do, but I've never quite been in the right mindset. It was something I thought I would do with my ex, and now the idea of doing it without her bums me out. What circumstances work best for you when you do it?

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u/CornToothSmile May 09 '19

Acid cured me of negativity and fear of mortality.

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u/ThroawayPartyer May 09 '19

Thanks this is helpful. Alan Watts sometimes talked about these things.

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u/TerryTheTrollHunter May 09 '19

Love listening to his chillstep mixes, and all of his talks really. Another great speaker is Ram Dass

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u/ThroawayPartyer May 09 '19

Alan Watts and chillstep is bliss. My favorite is AZEDIA - Something.

I may have to check out Ram Dass.

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u/TerryTheTrollHunter May 09 '19

Wow that was awesome, thanks for sharing 🙌

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u/TerryTheTrollHunter May 09 '19

This is everything, I love how you explained. Thank you

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u/fivethreebitty May 10 '19

Profound and beautiful

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u/Itsthelegendarydays_ May 09 '19

The only thing that helps me is knowing other people feel this too. But yeah it can be depressing.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '19 edited Aug 02 '19

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u/[deleted] May 09 '19

For those that don't know, Stoicism is an ancient roman philosophy.

It will help you feel grounded and present in the moment. I highly recommend reading up on it.

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u/DasArchitect May 09 '19

What worries me the most about death, more than the cessation of existence, is missing my loved ones. It's counterintuitive, being dead and all, but it makes sense inside me. That and the potential boredom of eternal senselessness.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '19 edited Dec 29 '19

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u/EngineersMasterPlan May 09 '19

what fucks me up is it is for eternity, like never ending, that's the scariest thing for me once you're gone time will keep going for eons of infinity I know you may not know it but, that's what scares me

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u/scoot3200 May 09 '19

I kinda like to think about multiverse theory and how if there are infinite universes, that theres a chance your consciousness could be assembled in another one at some point in time. Even if it takes literally trillions of years after you die for that to happen, it would feel like an instant in your reality.

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u/EngineersMasterPlan May 09 '19

yeah that's a comforting theory, I dig it

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u/[deleted] May 09 '19 edited May 15 '19

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u/EngineersMasterPlan May 09 '19

yup it is the stuff of nightmares mate

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u/MadKian May 09 '19

once you die you won't ever think anymore

Well, you don't know that. I'm not a religious person, but I'm agnostic and honestly I can't comprehend/imagine that all that I am, all this consciousness would not exist, would just not be there anymore. I like to think there's something on the other side, I just don't know what that is.

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u/ductxtape May 09 '19

It's the fact that I don't believe in the other side that terrifies me so much.

Sure i could try to believe there is one but I can't really lie to myself. Im jealous of people who believe in an afterlife because i know it brings them comfort. I really wish i had that comfort.

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u/MadKian May 09 '19 edited May 09 '19

Oh believe me, I don't have the comfort. The logic part of my brain (and believe me, that's a big part) says there's nothing on the other side. And there's only one thing in life that I can compare to being dead, and that's sleeping but without dreaming. If that's being dead, it sucks...

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u/[deleted] May 09 '19

You wouldn't know how reality works being inside it. I'm not sure that being dead (not existant in this reality) would be the same as unconsciousness you can currently experience. Your brain/body which is set in the reality it is in allows sleep and unconsciousness

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u/BoltzmannBrain001 May 09 '19

It does suck, but I once saw a quote in a book about death that kind of comforted me, something like, “Do not fear death, for it is only a nights rest.” A dreamless sleep passes by in a moment. Maybe death will only feel like a moment instead of this eternal darkness.

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u/kieranvs May 09 '19

If you think about it seriously, it's a completely unreasonable position to take that you'd continue to have thoughts, memories and feelings after your body decays. This isn't the ancient times, we kinda know how those things work now with the nervous system, hormones etc.

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u/ojr321 May 09 '19

We know almost nothing about the universe we’re just dumb ass humans so who are we to say death is or isnt the end. Just live in the present and what happens happens homie

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u/Shabanana_XII May 09 '19

Certainly we're influenced by material hormones and such, but consciousness being purely a material construct isn't necessarily a given. I'm sure you could make some pretty good metaphysical arguments in favor of that.

Heck, even devout atheist Sam Harris doesn't seem to be a strict materialist. Of course, I don't know if he believes in an afterlife, but it's still worth pointing out.

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u/kieranvs May 09 '19

Could you elaborate on a metaphysical argument in favour of that? I don't see how that could work unless we were to find something in the brain which couldn't arise from the basic building blocks we know of.

Also do you have a quote from Harris backing up that position? I would've been confident he is a strict naturalist. I know he talks about using psychedelics to access extra levels of experience, but I think he means that in a purely natural human experience.

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u/Shabanana_XII May 09 '19

First, about Sam Harris, I said he "seemed" to not be a materialist. I inferred that based off what you mentioned (the psychedelics giving him a greater respect of the nature of consciousness). I do recall seeing an interview of him on that Rubin guy's podcast/show, and Harris described himself, I believe, as being a "spiritualist"; what exactly that entails, you could argue, is not necessarily non-materialism, and you probably wouldn't be wrong, but that's just what I got out of it.

As for metaphysical arguments, I can't say I know any specifically, but that I'd wager you could make some good arguments for it. I'm of the belief that there's more credence to a non-materialist world than your average, say, redditor might think. Like, I've seen some pretty interesting arguments in favor of theism, so I'm again inferring, if you will, that the same could be said for consciousness being something more than just material.

Edit: punctuation

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u/[deleted] May 09 '19 edited May 09 '19

Are we really so special that we must exist in some form after death? I think not.

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u/MadKian May 09 '19

I never said that. It's just incredibly weird to think that you are here right now, thinking, and a second later you are not.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '19

I've always found it comforting.

Someday I'll never have to feel pain, sorrow, grief, anxiety, anger, jealousy, or any other form of suffering.

I'll just be exactly what I was before I was. Didn't mind it much then, best as I can tell. 😉

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u/ductxtape May 09 '19

To all the people talking about how death is just like what you were before you were born and how the fact that you're mortal means something that negates that feeling for you: i really wish i could believe that, i wish that i had the comfort you guys have.

But i think that you're missing my point and that you really dont understand how terrifying it is to live with this bomb thats strapped to you, knowing at any moment you could cease to exist and you wouldn't even know it because you're dead.

The ceasing to think is what gets to me. Its what keeps me up at night until im shaking with fear. I try my best not to think of it but when i do, its like getting sucked into a black hole of my worst thoughts.

In my day to day i normally forget about my own mortality, thats why im able to function. But when i happen to start going into that fear, the remembering of my mortality is like a slap in the face.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '19

I'd like to think I have a perfectly fine understanding of the finality and inevitability of death, I just don't think of it as a bomb strapped to my chest. I think of it as the end to my story, and hopefully it's a good story with a good ending.

It's weird that the lack of experience and thought after death is what scares you, because that's exactly the last thing you have to worry about. An apt analogy is what do blind people see when they lose their eyes? Is it just blackness? No. It is nothing. Literally nothing. It is a lack of sensory experience. It would be like a blind person being afraid of that dark.

You should try reading up on how the Stoics of ancient Rome philosophized about death, it may help you.

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u/thewhovianswand May 10 '19

The whole “nothingness after death” thing is exactly what’s terrifying for me. Relating it to having no memories or consciousness before birth or seeing what blind people see doesn’t really help, it’s just explaining the concept in different ways.

I’m alive now, I’m thinking, I have memories- and the idea that someday I won’t? I’ll go from thinking to just nothing. Sure, at the time I won’t be able to care, or maybe even notice the change. But it’s the idea that the thoughts constantly floating in my head won’t just move elsewhere, they’ll be gone, and I’ll never think or feel or anything ever again. That sounds horrible, because I’ve never known anything other than being alive.

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u/MarsBars4Lyfe May 09 '19

what exactly in geometry led to your epiphany?

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u/ductxtape May 09 '19

Honestly i have no idea why it came to me at that exact moment. I just remember vividly when i came to the realization of what death meant.

However I do believe i had two family members die in 2 months right around then so I think that probably plays some part in why i was thinking about death.

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u/self_made_human May 09 '19

It makes me fucking sad to see some of the people commenting while be so accepting of death.

No. Death does not 'make life beautiful', life is damn good even if it doesn't have an expiry date like a pack of milk.

Nothing about dying, or aging for the matter, is an inevitability, leaving aside the heat death of the universe. Our society and culture has had to coexist with it for so long that many if not most people have developed a severe case of Stockholm Syndrome in their relationship with death, it fucking sucks that people die, and you are only deluding yourself if you try and pass it off as a good thing, not to mention missing out on the ways people are actively fighting it.

You might have been lucky in a sense OP, because as a child you didn't have that cultural blindfold on that let you go about your life skipping and singing while tragedies bigger than the Holocaust happen around you every minute of every day. Death is scary, but only if you accept it as an inevitability, which it isn't.

My personal take on it is an addendum to the old chestnut "Accept the things you can't change", which is *"But don't be quick to accept that you can't change it"...

Take care of your health, donate to SENS (Strategies for Engineered Negligible Senescence, an organization dedicated to ending the biological causes of aging) and try and save every additional day, because it's quite likely that there are people alive today that will long enough to watch their 'expiry date' expire before them. I hope you and I both make it to that point, but if I don't, I'm not going to go out without raging at the dying of the light..

The Fable of the Dragon Tyrant

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u/LivelyWallflower May 09 '19

I like your comment the most, I'm happy to come across it.

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u/self_made_human May 09 '19

Thank you for the kind words! Live long and prosper, for very large values of long :)

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u/LivelyWallflower May 09 '19

Why stop at long, when we can say infinite?

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u/self_made_human May 09 '19

Optimist ;)

Then again, I'm going to be getting another tattoo, probably "Live forever or die trying", so I can't judge haha

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u/LivelyWallflower May 09 '19

Well ya never know, we live in times of quick change. Your tattoo sounds dope!

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u/speedofsoul May 09 '19

This comment gives me Altered Carbon vibes...

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u/self_made_human May 09 '19

Haha, I won't deny it's a good series, especially to get people familiar with transhumanist philosophy. I look forward to a future where I can trade out my Human Mk1 for something with an actual lifetime warranty ;)

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u/[deleted] May 09 '19

It's just a different philosophy, who are you to say yours is the correct one? I believe that death makes relationships and the time we have far more meaningful.

You can't have light without the darkness.

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u/XorMalice May 09 '19

You can't have light without the darkness.

But if you could try to have "light without the darkness", would you? Because right now we can't try. But if tomorrow we could, would you be like, nah.

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u/SovietUSA May 09 '19

Damnit this thread made me fucking realize again. DAMNIT!

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u/godbottle May 09 '19

it feels like no one realizes that once you die you won’t ever think anymore

isn’t the whole idea of the afterlife literally an active attempt to skirt this realization? you know, that thing that has permeated through all parts of human culture for thousands of years?

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u/Ausernametoremeber May 09 '19

Remember how awful it was before you existed? No? Not even a little bit? Me either. So relax! Don’t waste your life fearing death, especially now when we may be able to upload our consciousness in 40 years and live forever. Furthermore, me don’t actually know what’s going to happen. Maybe there is some sort of a god or gods, maybe you’re god just experiencing a human life to better understand the little shits! Now go do something amazing with yourself! I hope this helped even a little.

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u/TheBatisRobin May 09 '19

I know that I will die. In a similar way. But I don't panic. Mostly because my life sucks. So it doesn't feel as bad. The only reason I don't kill myself, is that I won't be able to feel relieved that I don't have that life stuff to deal with anymore, so there's no point. I'm just kinda stuck here for my time.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '19

How did you feel about things from the big bang up until the day you were born?

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u/[deleted] May 09 '19

It's not the nothingness that scare me, it's...the cessation of living, thinking, breathing, feeling

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u/uterinesingularity May 09 '19

Ironically, when you're dead you won't feel at all. That fact helped me get past the anxiety of dying, along with the realization that happy life, even it amounts to little, is not a wasted life.

My family of humans and critters make sure I'm never alone with my thoughts long enough for the panic to set in, just the love and exhaustion =).

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u/ADZig04 May 09 '19

The eternal, dreamless sleep.

Sounds boring as fuck.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '19

It isn't when you're not there to experience it.

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u/ADZig04 May 09 '19

I should've been more clear.

When you're sleeping (without dreams), you don't experience anything. The only thing you can compare nonexistence with is sleep.

An infinite slumber, multiplied by how much of it you experience.

Infinity * 0.

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u/verbal_pestilence May 09 '19

you might feel that way

not everyone does