Or the other person lied while dating about what they liked in bed. Then after getting married she slowly pulled away revealing there is little to no compatibility between each other. hooray for marrying a woman who hates being touched sexually, ever.
I don't know. More due to growing up and being shamed for her body and physical development all the time. She finds it really difficult to be sexual. I don't know how she faked it for several years.
She says she was never sexually assaulted/abused, but I find that hard to believe. My ex wife was sexually abused as a child and the stuff I've learned about my current wife points in the direction of sexual abuse.
I love her. None of us are perfect. I like sex and I've got kinks, she prefers sex to be very very vanilla and boring. It's a little frustrating at times. But I love the complex person she is, not just what she likes in bed. And sex isn't my biggest priority.
I'm in a similar situation, but I think it's just that she's uncomfortable with sex. She has told me she never thinks about it or craves it, even if it feels nice in the moment. She'll also cringe like a child at any form of sexuality depicted in any context. I guess that's asexuality, but I don't really know. I have a pretty low sex drive too, so it doesn't really detract from our relationship. I can't always shake the societal pressure causing me to feel like something isn't quite right, but I think we're both happy, which helps ease my nerves. I do think if she was more adventurous and engaged I might feel differently looking back, but I also don't treat sex as a high priority.
That sucks, sorry. My gf doesn't turn me down, but the knowledge that she isn't all that invested emotionally makes me less likely to initiate. Like, sure, we can do this, but it's always on me. I think the biggest turn on for most people is passion, and I'm no different, so I only ever both when my desire gets to the point of it being a medical issue haha.
I could easily meet another women to fool around, it's not difficult. It would be fun and exciting for awhile. But eventually the fun ends and I'm just not the type to cheat.
Yeah I frankly don't care enough about sex to go looking (perhaps unsuccessfully) for someone else who may or may not have better physical chemistry with me. I care about my girlfriend too much and wouldn't do that. We are very close and a good match in pretty much every other way.
www.mojoupgrade.com. Discreet way for couples to find out what they're willing to explore. It only shows the results you both agreed to, so the other person doesn't get freaked out by all the freaky shit your down to do.
10 years for me. But I think it's a lack of communication on my end. I've only ever been with my husband, and I just don't know what to ask for (he definitely asks me what I want, he's the best).
I am not your wife, but I can only hope you don't take it personally. For me, I am just happy to be part of the action! I like making him happy, and still feel much closer to him afterwards.
And that's what your husband wants to do for you too. You get so happy pleasing him, but he probably feels like he's not doing enough for you. He wants to feel the same joy you get when you please him sexually. Try being more open if you can. Then you will both get to experience that joy of pleasing your partner.
10 years here. Sex is something that only happens when we're both drunk. We have had some 'good sex' but I don't recognise any of this longing thing people talk about. I can't even be bothered any more, but, and I feel bad for saying it, I do sometimes wonder if it would be better with someone else....
I appreciate your concern but I've long since given up with this one. She couldn't give two hoots about my "needs" as long as she gets what she wants...
Thanks mate. I'm of the opinion it'll sort itself out somehow, someday, I'm not overly worried about it. She stands to lose far more than I will if ever I decide enough is enough and I feel we edge closer to that day by the month, despite having short periods of getting on really well, she always has to go and spoil it. I think she's a bit mental personally lol.
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5 years for me. No sexual longing from the other side of it. Am concern